When Anna Ivey, CEO and co-founder of CommonCoach Inc., opened her inbox recently she noticed an email from someone who had connected with her on LinkedIn, but she soon found out he was not looking for a professional connection.
"Your beauty and charming smile caught my eye," the man wrote. "You have an amazing profile and glad I had the courage to write you after weeks of deep thought." He then added: "I hope no offense is taken."
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Ivey did take offense and
<a href="https://twitter.com/AnnaIvey/status/1291084399660810240?s=20" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">posted a screenshot of the offending email</a> to Twitter with the message: "LinkedIn. Is. Not. A. Dating. Site."
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"I decided I'm going to start putting these out there, because especially in the startup world, a lot of men don't realize the garbage that women have to put up with," she said in a telephone interview.
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Women – and to a much lesser degree, men –
<a href="https://www.nawrb.com/american-workplace-35-percent-of-women-have-been-sexually-harassed-or-abused/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">have long had to endure</a> unwanted advances in the workplace or at work related events. But the problem is worse on LinkedIn, where people feel more comfortable making advances than they would in-person.
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"It would be nice if these platforms took this abuse more seriously," said Ivey.
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LinkedIn's
<a href="https://www.linkedin.com/help/linkedin/answer/34593/linkedin-professional-community-policies?lang=en" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">community guidelines</a> prohibit "romantic advances." However, as the company's CEO Jeff Weiner <a href="https://fortune.com/2019/11/08/linkedin-ceo-jeff-weiner-sexual-harassment-private-messages/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">told Wired magazine last year</a>, it relies on self-policing to enforce the policy. <a href="https://about.linkedin.com/transparency/community-report#content-violations-2019-jan-jun" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The company says</a> it removed 52,617 instances of harassment or adult content last year.
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Los Angeles has always had a reputation as a
<a href="https://www.lamag.com/culturefiles/dating-scorecard/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">tough place to date,</a> and that before COVID-19 shut down bars, parties and workplaces. As internet dating has become more mainstream, <a href="https://www.cnbc.com/2020/05/25/why-the-coronavirus-might-change-dating-forever.html" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">especially during the pandemic,</a> people are used to finding love online, and unlike dating apps — where the person you're swiping on <a href="https://social.techjunkie.com/tinder-profile-fake-bot/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">might not even be real</a> — LinkedIn confers authenticity. That it is not a dating site is a feature and not a bug for some users wary of being seen on the likes of Bumble or Hinge.
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"People don't want their friend's daughter or their assistant to see them online," said eharmony dating coach
<a href="https://www.manwhisperer.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Laurel House</a>. "They don't want people knowing their personal business."
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</p><h2>'Sometimes It Does Feel Predatory'
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Ivey estimates she gets about one message a month through LinkedIn asking her out and she sees it is as more than just an annoyance. "Sometimes it does feel predatory," she added. "I haven't asked to be a target. I don't know how much they know about me. I don't know how much they have Google stalked me."
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Despite the unwelcome advances, Ivey says she cannot delete her LinkedIn profile because it is an important networking tool. She tries to limit how much information she shares in her profile, something she says men do not have to worry about.
<a href="https://medium.com/fearless-she-wrote/my-linkedin-profile-is-not-a-dating-ad-a496909b9d95" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Some women have also been told</a> to use less attractive profile photos.
</p><p>
"I really mean that Linkedin is not a dating site," Ivey said. "If I were looking for romantic prospects, I would not be looking at Linkedin."
</p><p>
Ivey is hardly alone. Olivia Solon, tech investigations editor for NBC News, got this message: "It's my pleasure meeting you here. You look so beautiful and gorgeous." Kim Taylor, CEO of Cluster, posted a screenshot of a similar entreaty on Twitter: "I've not been able to take my eyes off your picture," a man wrote to her. "You're the most beautiful I've ever seen."
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After Taylor posted the message, Ben Katz, a tech entrepreneur who's currently the executive chairman of Haven Coliving, criticized her on Twitter for being overly sensitive.
</p><p>
"The outreach wasn't hostile," Katz replied to her. "Has anyone ever hit on you at a work event? How is this different?" (Katz later deleted the Tweets. When asked to comment he replied "LOL.")
</p><p>
The exchange highlights not only two divergent point of views, but how — three years after the #MeToo movement began — there is still confusion about when making a pass at someone crosses the line. Even when intentionally looking for love on apps, women tend to experience sexual harassment
<a href="https://www.foxbusiness.com/lifestyle/women-dating-apps-harassment-study" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">at a much higher rate than men.</a>
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</p><h2>Unclear intentions: An Informational Interview or a Date?
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Two years ago, Saphira Howell, who was 20-years-old at the time, was working in an entry-level role at a tech startup in Venice when she received a LinkedIn message from a man seven years her senior. He asked if they could meet over coffee for an informational interview so he could learn more about the company. Since they had mutual acquaintances on LinkedIn, she agreed. But when they met near Venice Beach, he showed little interest in talking about work.
</p><p>
"I thought it was weird because he didn't ask anything about the company," Howell recalls. "I thought maybe this guy was just a big networker?"
</p><p>
When the man texted a few weeks later asking if she wanted to have lunch, Howell asked him if he was looking for a date. He said he was. Howell told him she had a boyfriend and was not interested. She never heard from the man again. "I was a little unsettled that he thought our informational coffee was a date," she said.
</p><p>
<a href="https://www.manwhisperer.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Laurel House,</a> the dating coach expert at eharmony, said stories like Howell's are common, but she does not think it is inappropriate to use LinkedIn for dating, so long as people are respectful and upfront with their intentions.
</p><p>
"Make it clear as you can that you're interested in knowing her in a non-business way," said House. "You're giving her the opportunity to say 'thanks, but no thanks'."
</p><p>
House says overtures on the app are often a two-way street. "I have a lot of female clients who reach out to men to date on LinkedIn," she added. "They think a guy is really hot and maybe they can get a job or maybe a date."
</p><p>
Steven Ward, CEO of <a href="https://www.mastermatchmakers.com/default.aspx" target="_blank">Master Matchmakers</a>, who counts many tech executives as clients, says he scours dating sites for eligible singles, then cross-references LinkedIn to help verify their professional credentials.
</p><p>
"Linkedin is a great reservoir of talent when it comes to the dating scene," he said.
</p><p>
He also uses the platform to message people, since most dating sites require a mutual match before users can communicate. "You take your lumps," said Ward. "But sometimes they start to feel very intrigued if there's no commitment to work with me."
</p><p>
A matchmaker and chief dating officer at Match, Katie Wilson says she has contacted thousands of people on LinkedIn to ask if they would be interested in dating her clients and experiences "ten times" the success she does on Instagram or Facebook.
</p><p>
"I have yet to come across someone that's frustrated that I've reached out to them about their personal lives," said Wilson. "I think everyone is flattered. Even married folks are tickled that they still got it."
</p><p>
Still, Wilson does acknowledge that receiving a message from her is probably less threatening or creepy than getting one from a suitor.
</p><h2>A Message and Then a Marriage
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Some have met or reconnected with long lost acquaintances through LinkedIn that led to relationships, or even marriages.
</p><p>
Katie McCulloh, who lives outside Washington D.C, had grown weary of dating apps after years of bad dates. "If there was an app out there, I had tried it," she said. "I never had any success."
</p><p>
Three years ago, when she had just turned 35, she reached out to an old high school boyfriend on LinkedIn who she had not spoken to in years. "Linkedin was the one way I could reconnect," McCulloh said. "I didn't have a phone number and he wasn't on other social media."
</p><p>
McCulloh said she was only trying to be friends, but once the two met up "It didn't take long for us to realize something was still there." Two years ago they got married and now they are raising a toddler.
</p><p>
"You just never know what's going to happen," she said.
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<em>Lead art by Candice Navi.</em>
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Despite Better Unemployment Numbers, Job Sites See 'an Early Tsunami Warning' in Hiring Data
Sep 04 2020
- Although Friday's U.S. jobs data show continued declines in unemployment, many economists, such as from ZipRecruiter and LinkedIn, are concerned at the data they're seeing.
- One of them called the decline in employers' job postings on ZipRecruiter "an early tsunami warning" and a "pull-the-ripcord emergency moment."
- Several factors suggest pessimism from businesses about the near future, including the recent dry-up of government stimulus alongside ongoing operating constraints due to the pandemic.
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Friday's jobs report showed the U.S. unemployment figures continuing their decline to 8.4% in August, from a high of 14.7% in April.
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Despite that welcome news, more recent data from L.A.-based ZipRecruiter contains unsettling signs for the future. After 10 weeks of rising activity from employers, job postings have reverted to a downward trend since mid-August.<span></span>
</p><p>
"This is an early tsunami warning," ZipRecruiter labor economist Julia Pollak told dot.LA. "It could be the start of exactly the sort of systemic breakdown the government was trying to avoid in the beginning [of the pandemic]."
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Unemployment rates don't tell a full story about where the economy is headed, Pollak said. It's a reminder that she wants people in power to heed.<br>
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"I think Congress should see this as an emergency sign," she said, noting that job postings on ZipRecruiter tend to be an early indicator of job growth – or decline.</p><p>The job picture in California and Los Angeles is similar to that of the country at large, according to ZipRecruiter's data. Los Angeles <a href="https://www.bls.gov/web/metro/laulrgma.htm" target="_blank">has one of the highest rates of unemployment</a> among large metro areas. <br></p><p>LinkedIn, another job board, <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/jobs/blog/linkedin-workforce-report-september-2020-los-angeles-ca?src=re-other&veh=www.wsj.com%7Cre-other&trk=workforce" target="_blank">found hiring was 16.2% lower</a> this August than last year. </p><p>It's not surprising to Jerry Nickelsburg, an economist at the UCLA Anderson School of Management. He worries it will exacerbate inequality in Los Angeles, as industries being hit hardest tend to skew toward lower-income sectors, like logistics and tourism.</p><p>Nickelsburg said the federal unemployment data paints it a murky picture. The regulatory changes in recent months that led to a number of re-openings "mask what's going on underneath" at the economic level, he said. "We have less visibility than we normally have," Nickelsburg added. Assuming a continuation of the start-and-stop pace of opening up and the regulatory response, he foresees a "soft labor market in spite of the strong jobs report," noting that the job growth in today's data is fueled in part by temporary positions associated with the U.S. Census.<br></p><div class="rm-embed embed-media"><div aria-label="" class="flourish-embed flourish-chart" data-src="visualisation/3657274" data-url="https://flo.uri.sh/visualisation/3657274/embed">
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LinkedIn's principal economist Guy Berger also reported this week that hiring observed on LinkedIn (measured by the share of members adding a new employer to their profiles) fell from July to August. "Our takeaway is that this month's data shows that the virus has created a 'ceiling' on just how much the economy can return to normal," he said. "Given how much higher COVID transmission is here in the U.S. vs. aboard, the ceiling might be lower here."<br>
</p><p>
"My real fear is what will happen in September," Pollak said. "I look at a downturn in job postings as a break-the-glass, pull-the-ripcord emergency moment."</p><p>Pollak said her alarm follows weeks of optimism. More companies had been signing up for ZipRecruiter's services. Every single industry and every single state had seen job postings increase in July and August, she said. But now, those trends have stopped, and a number of factors appear to be turning that summer of hope into a fall reckoning:</p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">
<strong>Ongoing Uncertainty: </strong>Without clarity on the pandemic and the government's policy to stop it, businesses remain inclined to do what they usually do in the face of uncertainty: sit and wait. Berger, the LinkedIn economist, said this is due at least in part to a "less centralized U.S. response" to the pandemic and that the uncertainty is holding businesses back from long-term investing and hiring.
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<strong>Reduced Economic Activity:</strong> Anticipated closures of spectator sports, performing arts, colleges and ski resorts will hurt not just the businesses in those industries, but also adjacent ones like bars and restaurants. This expected dampening follows a quiet summer, which is normally the banner season for many such businesses. "Summer profit margins weren't large enough to sustain many businesses," Pollak said. Facing a future with fewer customers, "many will have to close in the fall."
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<strong>Government Stimulus Is Drying Up:</strong> The $350 billion payment protection program loans designed to help employers pay their workers during the shutdowns ceased on August 8th. $600 weekly unemployment checks expired in July, causing a $60 billion reduction in unemployment payouts in August. "That is almost certainly reducing consumer spending right now," Pollak said, <a href="https://www.ziprecruiter.com/blog/how-unemployment-benefits-affect-job-search-during-coronavirus/" target="_blank">pointing to a survey ZipRecruiter conducted</a> this summer that found over 40% of respondents would be unable to pay their rent if unemployment payments shrunk. Congressional talks on renewing a stimulus program <a href="https://www.wsj.com/articles/mnuchin-urges-congress-to-passmore-stimulus-funding-11598988384" target="_blank">have been gridlocked</a>.
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<strong>Schools Aren't Opening: </strong>Berger called virtual classes and delayed school re-openings "a severe challenge for households where all parents work." That's behind his topline takeaway that, in addition to a vaccine, his data point to a "need to get money back in the hands of Americans who need it and a childcare solution for the interim."
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<strong>Consumer Confidence Is Down:</strong> Conference Board, a think tank, <a href="https://conference-board.org/data/consumerconfidence.cfm" target="_blank">released data this week</a> that consumer confidence has fallen two months in a row. "If confidence goes down, we can expect spending to go down," Pollak said – both among those who have no choice and those on the fence about, say, buying a house or a new car.
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Pollak added that since neither the stock market nor housing values have crashed, her data point to widespread "concern about COVID, the future course of policy, and the ability for businesses to reopen and be sustainable given reduced sales and rules limiting their capacity."
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Over the coming months she and others will be closely watching for the speed at which jobs are able to return to their pre-COVID baseline, and other indicators of a dynamic labor market. These include participation rates among prime-age workers and women, wage growth and long-term unemployment. But as long as the pandemic lingers, those indicators may be tepid.
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"We can't fully bounce back until there is more certainty around the virus," Berger said.
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